
We negotiate several times a day, even if we do not recognize those occurences as such — « accept or walk away » is a fairly instinctive, if somewhat inefficient, negotiation strategy, and it goes hand in hand with the modern « take it or leave it » strategy employed by most mass consumer shops.
What is negotiation anyway, and why does it happen?
It happens because when humans cooperate, they get a cake that is bigger than the sum of its parts, and they need to decide how to split it. For instance, if I grow potatoes and you breed cattle, we could decide to put together my delicious Désirée tubers and your tasty Charolais steaks, which is a big improvement over otherwise potato- or beef-only diets. And then, we would argue over how much of the final mix each of us would get:
ME: We both contributed equally, so let’s get 50% each.
YOU: Breeding cattle is harder than watching potatoes grow, so I want 65%.
ME: Suit yourself, I know a guy who only asks for 55%.
YOU: Fine, I’ll go as low as 60% because I like your blog.
ME: I just told you I know a guy who…
YOU: …and that would save you the effort of finding that guy before lunch.
ME: Right. 60% it is, then.
You were a good negotiator, so you managed to squeeze 10% out of this. What happened? Let’s break this down.
Irrational Arguments
« We both contributed equally » might be true. Maybe I spent as much time growing my potatoes than you spent working in your ranch. But that is not my argument. What I have written between the lines is that it is fair for equal efforts to receive equal rewards.
And fairness is not a rational argument. It is a subtle way to circumvent rational thinking and aim for our unconscious ethical programming and, by definition, make decisions that are not in our best interest. In the eyes of a good negotiator, this is a loophole to be exploited.
There are many other such loopholes in the human mind. My favorites are:
Reciprocity is an atavistic impulse to give back whenever we receive something, even if that something is mostly unrelated to our objectives. In the example above, going from 65% to 60% is cleverly framed as a gift instead of a simple acceptance of my terms, which makes me unwilling to further haggle over whether it should be 57.5%.
Imprinting is our tendency, when we have no idea how much something is worth, to go with the first guess, clue or hint that we find about it. By suggesting a 50-50 trade, I imprinted you on the idea that potatoes are about as valuable than meat, and this serves as a basis for your « reasonable » 35-65 counter-proposal instead an extreme trade like, say, 3-97.
Guess what the market rate for potatoes and Charolais steak is? 3-97. I would like to correct my previous sentence:
You were a good bad negotiator, so you I managed to squeeze 10% 37% out of this.
And then, there’s a slew of emotional manipulation that does not appear at all in my example above. You can feign disappointment to try and get more out of a deal — “I really hoped you, of all people, could get this done for me.” You can pretend to be offended, shocked or angry in order to cause a large shift in the terms being negotiated — when you haggle in a bazaar, quote a price that is too low and you will be told that it is insulting, and kicked out of the store.
There are many other examples. Go read this blog article and read Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely.
Rational arguments
You might expect this section to be as rich as the previous one, but it is not. There are only two different rational arguments you can say in a negotiation: “I will not accept this outcome because [credible reason]” and “You will accept this outcome because [credible reason]“. Let’s examine our conversation with this convention:
ME: Suggests 50-50
YOU: No, because [breeding cattle is harder than watching potatoes grow], suggests 35-65
ME: No, because [I know a guy who only asks for 55%]
YOU: Suggests 40-60
ME: No, because [I know a guy who only asks for 55%]
YOU: Yes, because [that would save you the effort of finding that guy before lunch]
ME: Accepts 40-60
This is the reason why the most fundamental principle in negotiations is be willing to walk away. If you cannot or will not walk away, and the other guy knows this, then you can no longer say « No, because » and this cripples your ability to negotiate properly.
Typical reasons why I will not accept an outcome:
- The costs are greater than what I get out of it. Maybe I’ll ask for more money, or non-financial benefits (exclusive rights, free advertising…)
- It’s too risky for me. Maybe I’ll ask for insurance, or add terms to our contract that provide me with acceptable protection.
- I can get a better offer elsewhere. You can either match that offer, give me something I cannot get elsewhere, or give up.
Typical reasons why you should accept an outcome:
- There are additional benefits you did not take into consideration, such as not spending the time to find a better offer elsewhere, or my goodwill in terms of future trades, or my reputation as your client/provider.
- If you do not accept now but change your mind later, I will not be able the same offer to you again in the future.
These reasons do not have to be true, they only have to believable. I don’t know anyone who would accept a 45-55 split on potatoes and Charolais steak, but you don’t know that, so I can still bluff my way through our negotiation, bringing you down from 65% (which is still a 32% win for me) to 60%. If you knew that no sane person would accept a 45-55 split, you could certainly call my bluff and even bring me back up to 10-90 or so.
How you present those arguments is a matter of style. Here are four different ways of presenting the same argument (you will not get more than $30k for an APL job) :
- No one else in town hires APL developers like yourself, so you either accept this $30k job or get out.
- I am certainly interested in your APL skills, but I would be losing money if I paid you more than $30k.
- We are looking to fill our APL development position, but I am not at liberty to offer you more than $30k.
- We have interviewed several candidates with your skills, and most of them are below your wage requirements.
Some aggressive types would prefer approach 1, while manipulator types would go with 2 (which is a lie), passive types would hide behind a third party authority using 3, and sneaky types would try to get an even lower salary quote by withholding the $30k figure in approach 4.
Alternative Benefits
This is a subtle but essential part of many successful negotiations. It’s not only about the money. In the above example, I traded 5% for the ability to get my food in time for lunch — a concept that had not been mentioned at all before. You decided that instead of matching my requirements as I expressed them, you would offer me something that was unexpected and which, to you, cost less than 5% but still, to me, was worth at least 5%.
Going down alternate routes is an excellent way to get a stuck negotiation moving.
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